I never revealed that on August 10th, we found out we were having a BOY! Just as we both thought - and had always hoped for. The third trimester went by pretty well without too many issues - the back pain returned, pain in my legs...the usual...although I started actually sleeping better in the last couple of months of my pregnancy. Crazy, I know.
We had two wonderful baby showers thrown by friends and family and one thrown by my wonderful, amazing work family. And then came December.
The pain in my legs became worse as the days went by and there were many days that I felt like he was literally going to fall out of me. On Sunday the 11th, I had some back pain during the night and even woke up to get sick...the days the followed involved little appetite, extreme tiredness and a very upset tummy. Friends assured me that I would be having a baby soon, but I didn't believe it. I wasn't due until January 6th and had every belief that our little guy would be late.
The doctor said I was progressing - I was into my weekly appointments and at my first visit, I was 1/2 cm dilated and the second week, I was 1 cm and 50% effaced. Things were moving along, but most likely, I would have the baby somewhere around the end of the year. On Tuesday the 13th, as we were on our way home from registering at the hospital, we were in a minor accident. Although I felt fine at first, I started to panic after a while, had some contractions and was sent to the hospital for observation. Once we arrived, they hooked me up to the fetal monitors which showed that I was having contractions every 3-4 minutes, but that our little guy was doing well in there and actually seemed unaffected by all of the excitement. I could not be more happy! I was just over 36 weeks at this point so they told me that if labor started on its own, they would not stop it, but would prefer we waited a while longer before the little man made his appearance. After a couple of hours there, they decided to send me home. Thank goodness because even though I had just had the Hubs throw the bag in the car that day, I was not prepared to stay there that night.
The nights that followed included more leg pains (it was like shooting pains down the insides of my thighs that almost felt like my legs were about to give out), nausea and lack of sleep, but I still did not believe anything would happen that soon. I had a follow up at the doctor the next day and was told I was 2 cm but I was still thinking he would come at the end of the month.
As the week went on, the same pains and complaints continued (even though I didn't complain!) and on Friday (the 16th), I went to work, was super productive, brought home work for the weekend and had plans to finish our Christmas shopping that night. When I got home, the leg pains were worse and I was clearly having contractions this time (my stomach was almost in the shape of a square as they happened). So we decided to stay home that night and take it easy as I was sure the events of the week (and my possible overdoing it) was just more than my body could handle.
The next day, the Hubs and I woke up convinced that we were going to finish our Christmas shopping no matter what. Although I was exhausted, still nauseous (and losing weight by the day!), we managed to accomplish the mission. It felt great. The Hubs convinced me that I needed to eat, so we stopped off for sushi lunch (I am a vegetarian, so mostly ate rice, which was good for a sick tummy!). While at lunch, we talked about how we hoped that the baby came either before Christmas or at the end of the year. The Hubs admitted that he was worried that it would happen very soon while he was away at work or in the middle of the night, so we discussed that for a bit. After lunch and a lengthy discussion about our worries and our excitement, we headed home and I was able to take a wonderful nap!
At around 3:30, my phone rang and woke me up from the nap (it was my former boss' wife asking if she could drop off a gift for the baby). As I sat up to answer the phone, I felt something coming out of me. Right away, the Hubs could tell from the look on my face that something had happened to which I quickly said, "Um...something just fell out of me!" I ran to the bathroom, my heart beating so hard I could hear it through my chest, and as I sat on the toilet, I felt more fluid rush out of me. I wasn't sure whether I had just peed my pants or if my water had broken, but after a phone call to my sister-in-law and the doctor, we were quickly on our way to the hospital.
As we drove there, we could not believe that our little guy may actually be on his way. I cannot describe the amount of calmness I had! It was unreal. Although I was so excited that we were going to meet the baby we had been dreaming of for years, I really kept it together somehow.
We were checked in at the hospital and they started the monitors, changed me into a gown, got me in the bed and I was quickly "checked." I'm not gonna lie, it didn't feel good, but it wasn't as bad as what I had heard (a friend of mine referred to this as being "fisted" and I now see why). The nurse told me I was at a 4 and 100% effaced and asked about my pain level - to which I replied that I had none! We discussed an epidural (and how I definitely wanted one, but didn't feel the need for it at this time) and she promised to keep me udpated of when it was no longer an option to receive one (I feared I'd wait too long!).
As I mentioned before, I really wasn't scared at all at this point. I was excited, felt like I was in a dream, but totally calm - like I had done this all before. A different nurse came in a few minutes later to administer my IV and thanks to something she shouldn't have told me, that's where the nerves set in and tears started to flow. Our baby was at 37 weeks, 1 day and this nurse informed me that because he was early and a white male, it was likely that his lungs were not fully developed, so they were a bit concerned. I have to admit that the minute she left the room, I couldn't contain my emotions any longer and the floodgates opened and the tears flowed. I could tell the Hubs was worried as well, but after talking to another nurse and the doctor, they assured me that he should be just fine, wasn't showing any signs of trouble so far and that the other nurse who gave me this scary news was actually a "baby nurse" who doesn't typically work with the moms. I guess we know why.
After another couple of hours, I started to have some back pain, but nothing terrible...they said I was between a 4-5 and that the doctor wanted to start me on pitocin to speed up the labor. He wanted to offer me the epidural before the pitocin so I wouldn't have to feel the pain if I didn't want to. Although I was in minimal pain at the moment and was a bit curious to see how far I could go, I decided to take them up on the offer and I must admit that although I feel like I cheated a bit (I seriously NEVER was in pain, just uncomfortable), I'm glad I took it because I was going to be exhausted later!!!
Fast forward to about 2:30 in the morning...nothing had really been happening. I was still at a 5 or so after a few hours on the pitocin, was told to turn on my side for a few hours so I did and boy did that get things moving. The next time the nurse came in she had a huge smile on her face to which she exclaimed, "He's here! You're ready!" The Hubs and I could not believe it! It was finally going to happen!!! They told me it would take about 45 minutes for the doctor to arrive so to just try to get some rest until we started with the delivery. Easier said than done! I was so excited that I started to hyperventilate a little bit, but thanks to my yoga breathing, I was able to keep calm - and that's because the Hubs was the most amazing labor coach I could have ever asked for!!! (A special note that I highly recommend the prenatal yoga and the breathing exercises we learned in that class! It truly kept me focused and able to remain calm when I needed it most.)
When the doctor finally arrived, we started the whole process (which again, was so surreal, but so amazing!) and after 30 minutes of pushing (which they tell me is great!), we met our beautiful baby boy! It was the most amazing moment of my entire life and I will never forget how incredible it was to see him for the first time. He was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen and although I was just seeing him for the first time, I felt like I already knew him. I was overwhelmed with emotion - happiness and joy was beaming from every pore of my body and I was totally oblivious to anything else happening around me at the moment.
Love at first sight...
Caleb Michael - born 12/18/11 at 3:56 a.m.
6 pounds, 12 ounces - 18.5 inches long
Fast forward to today - 10 weeks later - and I must tell you that life just continues to get better by the day. Our little guy is truly amazing and we are absolutely obsessed with him. I still feel like he is the most amazing person I have ever met and that I've known him forever. I read back through my past blog entries and remember all of the sadness we went through to get here and I honestly feel as though I may have been less sad had I known that we would eventually be blessed with this wonderful little person. I will never forget the baby we lost, the tremendous disappointment and sadness we experienced over the past few years and I will always have a soft spot in my heart for those couples who have difficulty in conceiving a child. It is the absolute greatest gift a person can ever receive and it kills me to think that not everyone can just "have a child."
I also have to say that after years of hating my body and being so angry with it for what it didn't know how to do, I have a whole new respect for it now. It dealt with labor in the most perfect way - doing exactly what it needed to do so that I was able to give birth to a beautiful, healthy child. I never thought that labor would be as easy for me as it was after all of the trouble my body gave me with conceiving, but I really do respect and love my body now.
Life is good. I love my husband more than ever and am blessed with a gorgeous, healthy, happy little boy who I could not possibly love any more than I do. And although I'm about to head back to work and leave my happy little world of being home with my little man every day, I am truly grateful for all that we went through to get here. I stare at Caleb every day wondering if he will ever know how much we love him or what we went through to meet him. Perhaps all of those sad days made us appreciate the happy days we've had even more.
All I know is that I have no idea what made God eventually answer our prayers - and I often ask Caleb whether he picked us or if someone picked him for us - and while I will most likely never know the answers to these questions, I do know that I am so incredibly grateful that he's ours!
Our gorgeous blessing
Caleb at 9 weeks
"Someday, everything will make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason."